Who Can You Really Trust With Your Kid?

Babysitting Nightmares No Date Night by 2GroovyMoms.comI do not know if I have anybody that I can trust with my daughter! I mean, sometimes family can be worse than strangers. Family feel as though they have some kind of entitlement because they are related and that entitlement allows them to do whatever they want with my child (clearly overriding me and my requests).

Okay, so my requests may be a little unreasonable to some, but I believe they should be  understandable to any sound-mind adult.  Example: no red meat, no candy, no sodas, and no swearing in front of my impressionable toddler.  Sounds simple right! Well, apparently that makes me an unrealistic, I’m-not-letting-my-daughter-be-a-child, I-think-she’s-better-than-other-children, crazy NEW mom.

Okay, well no! She cannot spend the night, or a few hours, or even a few minutes alone at your house without me or dad.

Then, you have strangers who say that they will follow your requests with no problem. On top of my husband and I being paranoid about strangers in our home, we can’t ignore  all of the horror stories/videos we have seen with sitters abusing children.

So needless to say, date night does not exist in our home. Does anyone else struggle with similar babysitting issues that you care to share?


  1. Lauren says:

    I agree that you need to be careful about who watches your children, but I also know that having a “date night” is CRUCIAL in having a good relationship. . You need to make sure that you and your husband get some time for just the two of you. :)

    • SummersGroovyMom says:

      Lauren you are absolutely right! We are definitely trying to make that happen IMMEDIATELY! Thank you so much for your comment.

  2. Lynitia says:

    I am blessed that I do have family that I trusted enough to leave my young child with. He’s almost 11 now, so he doesn’t have that many (if any) restrictions. But if you have other friends who have sitters they trust with their children, that could be a start so you and the hubby can have some quality time.

    • SummersGroovyMom says:

      Thank you Lynitia for your comment. It is truly a blessing to have family you can trust. Most of my friends share my same issue on this matter unfortunately. But I am remaining hopeful that soon something will change.

  3. Hope says:

    As a nanny and well seasoned babysitter, I’m sorry to hear you’re having so much trouble finding someone who will adhere to your requests and parenting wants. My only advice is don’t give in, you have the right to say what you want and how you want it. Just keep hanging in there until you can find the right candidate!

  4. notquitewonderwoman says:

    I guess I going to go a different direction than Hope. We lived fairly close to family when the two olders were little. They had grand parents and aunts that loved them very much but didn’t have the same house rules as we did. We knew it was important for us to have time together and for family to bond with the kids, so at a very early age we started telling our kids that different families had different rules and when they were with aunts, cousins, and grandparent that they could live by their rules but at our house we would still follow our rules. It’s a matter of trust when it comes to family, I trust that they are looking out for my child’s interest. So if every few weeks Aunt Pat watched the kids and let them eat chocolate cake for supper and watch 5 hours of cartoons in a row, well that’s what make being with Aunt Pat special and when we got home they knew that those policies weren’t gonna fly. I really never expected other responsible grown ups who loved my children to follow all my rules. I don’t think it hurt them, in fact I think it taught them some flexibility.

    • SummersGroovyMom says:

      Thank you for your comment and I appreciate it. I love your perspective because you have good points and I know my family would not do anything to intentionally harm my child so I will strongly consider rethinking some of my stubbornness. Also I enjoyed your post 10 Essential Books to Get Your Baby’s Library Off to a Good Start. My daughter has a few of those that made your list in her library. I think we are off to a good start! I will continue to check out your posts.

      • notquitewonderwoman says:

        Me too with you. I showed my very blonde stringy haired daughter of 12 your post about corn rows, lol. She wonders about differences like that. She watches braid tutorials on YouTube. She is really getting good a different braids and our hair braids better when it is not freshly washed so she is finding it easier not to wash and dry her hair everyday and braid it instead.

        • SummersGroovyMom says:

          Lol, Aww I hope I can be helpful to her,I think that is awesome she is experimenting with new things. Braids are cute on everyone she may become a trendsetter among her friends, and they will ask her to braid their hair too.

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